Men and Flowers - Dispelling the Myths

Replica cars, comic boxers, laminate tie-hangers - onein question have been bestowed with blossoms.
can't help thinking that dads have pulled the shortSend flowers and push the envelope
straw when it comes to impromptu gifts. Of course it'sAccording to Texas A&M University, flowers in
the thought that counts, but do fathers derive thethe workplace also augment men's problem-solving
same pleasure from tatty trinkets received in June asskills. Over a period of eight months, the men who
mothers do from the bouquets they get sent in May?participated in the study came up with 15 per cent
It seems unlikely, yet, year after year, we refuse tomore ideas than usual when working in a florally
take a cue from the delight experienced by the distaffenhanced environment. So, if you're a casualty of
side. Is it because we're victims of social stereotypes,uninspired dinnertime chatter or lugubrious bedroom
or do men really not get the same frisson fromantics, perhaps a strategically placed bunch of flowers
flowers?in the home will get your guy thinking...
It's true - boys do want bouquetsSo, some pink peonies for him, then?
Contrary to popular belief, most men seem to ratherJust because men do enjoy being given flowers (or at
fancy a bit of floral pampering. In 2003, over 60 perleast respond well to receiving them), it doesn't
cent of men surveyed by the Society of Americanautomatically follow that they like getting the same
Florists admitted they would like to receive flowers ontypes of flowers as women. Flowers as a whole may
Valentine's Day - and that was a good few yearshave shaken off the outmoded mantle of
before 'metrosexual' entered our common parlance.non-manliness, but there are certain varieties that are
An ICM poll from the same year also revealed thatconsidered too feminine and frilly for more masculine
just as many men as women thought they might betastes.
given flowers on a Friday as a prelude to a goodThat's not to say anything pink is an a priori no-no. In
weekend.the early 20th century, pink was actually the favoured
Give flowers and get social butterfliescolour for boys, so anyone who insists that only blue
What's more, men who receive flowers are generallywill do really is a herd-following conservative. True, men
nicer to be around (unless, of course, you've got ado tend to like blue - on the whole, they are attracted
penchant for grumpy fellows). In a study undertakento bolder, more vibrant colours, including reds and
by academics at Rutgers University, lone elevatoryellows. They also tend to prefer cleaner-edged, more
travellers were presented with a single gerbera stem,architectural flowers, such as bamboos, ginger lilies and
a pen, or nothing at all, or exposed to a basketful ofgladioli. Tropical flowers are usually a good bet, then, as
Transvaal daisies. The researchers then attempted totheir bright hues and modern shapes are a far cry
engage the inter-floor itinerants in conversation.from the fussy petals of more feminine flowers such
Taking into account head movements, eye contact,as carnations and peonies.
proxemic behaviour and polite versus genuineEach to his own, however, holds true. If you're
(Duchenne) smiles, the researchers concluded thatchoosing flowers for a man, take a bit of time to think
"both men and women were as likely to respond withabout his favourite colours and shapes. And don't limit
more social behaviors when receiving flowers versusyourself to Valentine's Day, it's high time our gentlemen
receiving pens or receiving nothing". So whether or notfriends become as accustomed to a bit of spoiling as
men admit to being pleased by gifts of flowers, mostour ladies.
people are likely to prefer male company if the males