| When it comes to weddings there are two types of | | | | will consult with your bride about where she wishes to |
| groom. The first type of groom is called Neanderthal | | | | get married and then you can do the preliminary |
| groom. Although thought to be extinct, there are still | | | | investigations into availability and booking procedures. |
| pockets of Neanderthal grooms throughout the | | | | You can then arrange for you and your bride to visit |
| western world. This groom will hit the golf course with | | | | the possible venues and, if you are having a religious |
| his primitive clubs and leave all the hard work to his | | | | ceremony, arrange the meeting with the clergyman. |
| bride. His primitive brain can not understand girlie things | | | | Hiring Or Buying Your Own Wedding Outfit |
| such as weddings and he therefore feels that sort of | | | | Find out from your bride how she would like you, the |
| work should be left to women. | | | | best man, and the ushers dressed. Tails, suits, kilts etc. |
| The second type of type of groom is called super | | | | Then get some quotes and arrange a fitting for |
| groom. Super groom will go out of his way to help and | | | | yourself and the other guys. |
| support his bride as much as possible. He knows that | | | | Buttonholes For You, The Best Man, and Ushers |
| planning the wedding will be a stressful and | | | | Yes, this is your job. Traditionally it is carnations, but |
| time-consuming process for his bride, and he wishes to | | | | ask your bride what she would like. She may want |
| lighten her workload as much as possible. As far as he | | | | colors which fit in with her wedding color scheme. |
| is concerned, this wedding is for the lady he loves and | | | | Wedding Cars or Transport |
| she deserves the best. | | | | Obviously, discuss with your bride which form of |
| We shall assume that as you are reading this article | | | | transport she would like for going to the church and |
| that you fall into the latter category but could do with a | | | | then onto the reception venue e.g. limousines, horse |
| little advice on where to start. So here goes... | | | | and carriage, vintage cars etc. Then get some quotes |
| The First Thing You Need To Know | | | | and bring them back to the boss. |
| Neanderthal groom is actually right about one thing. | | | | Your First Night Hotel |
| When it comes to weddings, the ladies are the | | | | Unless you are getting on a jet after the wedding |
| experts. They have talked about weddings and read | | | | reception, then you and your bride are going to have |
| about weddings, for years. So, unless you are a | | | | to stay somewhere before going on your Honeymoon. |
| wedding organiser, there is no way you can be the | | | | Usually this is a lovely hotel. If it is the hotel where you |
| master in this area. | | | | are having your wedding reception, then your problem |
| The First Thing You Need To Do | | | | is solved. However, discuss this with her and then |
| So, having accepted the fact the bride and her mum | | | | arrange it, if necessary. |
| are the masters of this domain, the first thing you need | | | | The Honeymoon |
| to do is tell your bride that you want to be involved | | | | This is easy. Ask her where she wants to go. Get the |
| and help. This is a simple but important statement. It | | | | brochures from the travel agent. Ask her where she |
| tells your bride that you are the man she always knew | | | | thinks you afford you take her (after all, your money |
| you were and she can rely on you. | | | | will soon be her money). Take out your credit card - |
| Have a Discussion | | | | and make it so! |
| The next thing to do is to discuss with your bride what | | | | The Bride and Bridesmaids Bouquets |
| needs to be done over the next few months and | | | | You have to pay for these, but it is unlikely that your |
| what she would like you to do to help. This is also a | | | | bride will want you to choose the flowers. That is best |
| good time to work out who is paying for what. If it is a | | | | left to her. Although, remember to be a gentlemen and |
| traditional wedding, there are some tasks that the | | | | compliment her on her choices. |
| groom is expected to do - and pay for. So, that is a | | | | Thank You Presents For The Best Man, Ushers and |
| good place to get you started. | | | | Bridesmaids |
| Legal Paperwork For Your Marriage | | | | Consult with your bride. She will advise you what to |
| Assuming that you have already bought the | | | | get for the bridesmaids and may leave the Best Man |
| engagement ring, then the next step is to arrange the | | | | and Ushers to you. |
| legal paperwork for the wedding e.g. marriage notice | | | | So, these are the ways a super groom can be |
| and marriage schedule from the District Registrar's | | | | proactively involved in wedding planning. Of course, it |
| office in the UK. It is as well to do this as soon as | | | | does not stop there. You should continue to offer |
| possible and no later than six weeks before the | | | | support and advice to your bride on all aspects of the |
| wedding. If you are not in the UK, then check your own | | | | wedding.You may not know much about wedding |
| country's legal requirements. However, the golden rule | | | | cakes, wedding stationery, or flowers, but that does |
| is to do the legal stuff earlier rather than later. There is | | | | not stop you from be able to discuss them over a nice |
| no point having a wedding if you cannot legally get | | | | meal or glass of wine and complimenting her on her |
| married because of some red tape you missed. | | | | choices. |
| The Church Or Registry Office | | | | So, remember to smile, be proactive, be interested, |
| Traditionally, the groom pays for the Church or | | | | lend a kindly ear, and have a strong shoulder for her to |
| Registry Office and any music at the ceremony, such | | | | lean on. |
| as an organist, choir, or string quartet. Obviously you | | | | Congratulations - you are now a super groom! |