| For the ladies | | | | relationship that make me incredibly happy? |
| I work on the premise that your man is willing to give | | | | For the guys: |
| you everything you want; that he wants to make you | | | | (Note: I won't normally write directly for the guys, but in |
| happy, if only he is shown how. If this is a stretch for | | | | case your wondering about my philosophy here.....) |
| you, I suggest your belief is the main thing standing | | | | I work on the premise that if you are not happy in your |
| between you and a wonderful relationship. | | | | relationship, it is because your girlfriend or wife is not |
| When a man does not meet your expectation, you | | | | happy, and therefore does not want you to be happy. |
| may tend to contract or withdraw. Resentment can | | | | You know how when she's lit up you have a great |
| creep in and your man pays in the end - either subtly | | | | day, but when she's not you pay? Sadly, the impact of |
| or directly. A cycle can form where you may "cut him | | | | her mood on your life is widely underestimated. |
| down" more often than you "build him up". | | | | I don't work with men on how to get their partner to |
| My coaching and articles will centre around helping you | | | | alter her behaviour or give the guy more of what he |
| to: | | | | wants. I work with men on how to pay attention, so |
| 1) See you actually can have everything you want | | | | they can give their women what she wants even |
| from your relationship | | | | before she asks for it. |
| 2) Get clear on exactly what you want | | | | "Make her happy, and your life will flow." |
| 3) Show your man how to give you what you want, in | | | | Most women give out of obligation and conditioning. |
| such a way that you both win! These steps often | | | | What would it be like to have her so happy, she's |
| require a shift in thinking, and giving up some | | | | giving out of surplus? |
| behavioural habits. You will need to take responsibility | | | | Further, because women highly value attention and |
| for your relationship - often an uncomfortable place to | | | | consideration, and men tend to highly value producing |
| stand. The result is a positive cycle where he enjoys | | | | or achieving, a great win-win game is produced if the |
| giving you what you want - wins from it - rather than | | | | man pays attention to what his partner wants, and |
| acting out of obligation or fear. This leaves you | | | | provides it! One could even go so far as to say that |
| radiantly happy, which in turn makes an ENORMOUS | | | | given what women go through on this planet |
| difference to his life. | | | | compared to the life of the average man, that it's only |
| Ask yourself - if life was a fairytale, and I really could | | | | fair! But fair is not relevant; suffice it to say this model |
| have a perfect relationship, what would that look like? | | | | works - wonderfully. |
| What THREE things could I have more of in this | | | | |