| It is so easy to work your life away, | | | | wither and fade and the couple tend to |
| forget about your family, your partner | | | | grow apart. |
| and your relationship. People putting | | | | When children are involved it is even |
| work before family is such a common | | | | more difficult with just one partner |
| marriage problem that seems to pop up | | | | having to make sure they are around. |
| time and time again. | | | | That they are the ones there in the |
| It's ok for a while, your partner will | | | | mornings and there in the evenings and |
| understand that you need to put some | | | | that they alone have to revolve their |
| time and effort into your career | | | | whole lives around children and school. |
| especially if it generates a good income | | | | Again this pressure on one partner is |
| but as time goes on and the 'W' word | | | | all too common, a marriage problem that |
| pops up again and again, even if your | | | | seems to be ignored by spouses who tend |
| partner enjoys the benefits of your | | | | to avoid their responsibilities under |
| efforts, all patience fades and the | | | | the misguided understanding that their |
| realisation sets in that work is more | | | | partners can and are happy to cope. |
| important!! | | | | Those early years, when your children |
| I used to know a couple who spent most | | | | are growing up are very special and are |
| of their life apart. He worked nights | | | | years that can never be recaptured. They |
| and she worked days. She enjoyed | | | | aren't years that should just pass you |
| spending the money that night shifts | | | | by at your desk under the false |
| generated, loved new clothes, new cars | | | | impression that next time your child |
| and all the little luxuries a | | | | wants you it will be different, you just |
| comfortable life style brings but hated | | | | need to clear this project and then the |
| her partner being tired when he was at | | | | next and then the next..... It's never |
| home. They were between a rock and a | | | | any different. |
| hard place with him knowing that if he | | | | Children struggle with the concept of |
| gave up nights bang went the luxuries | | | | work being more important than them and |
| and more than likely bye bye wife but if | | | | what is going on in their lives. They |
| he carried on working nights and | | | | are too young to understand the concept |
| striving for promotion he was dead in | | | | that their parent is just short sighted, |
| the water anyway. What a choice. | | | | perhaps confused as to what should take |
| Needless to say they never reached a | | | | priority in their lives. Money doesn't |
| compromise, she wasn't willing to wait | | | | mean much to a child. |
| for the promotion and a return to day | | | | When work takes over your life, no |
| shifts, so they are no longer married. | | | | matter what you best intentions are, if |
| Working excessively long hours, | | | | your vision isn't understand and |
| travelling a lot and constantly leading | | | | accepted by your family and they aren't |
| separate lives is bound to put a strain | | | | 100% behind you all of the way they will |
| on your relationship and it has proven | | | | learn to resent the time you spend at |
| to be a real relationship killer, a | | | | your desk rather than with them. They |
| common marriage problem that is prolific | | | | will feel abandoned, unwanted and |
| in the 'career' society. Just look at | | | | unloved. |
| the number people that are addicted to | | | | If you want to revolve your life around |
| long unsociable working hours and then | | | | a work driven environment you must make |
| see how many of them are still married. | | | | sure that that your partner has the same |
| I've only ever met a handful of couples | | | | all consuming driving ambition. If |
| who are truly comfortable with, at best, | | | | either one in a relationship feels that |
| a weekend relationship and these are | | | | work has taken over the family life it |
| couples that have learned and are happy | | | | is time to sit down and discuss what is |
| to live independent lives. The problem | | | | important in to you both. Consider the |
| in their relationships will come when | | | | issues, understand the feelings on both |
| the long hours and travelling comes to | | | | sides, think about the children and work |
| an end and they have to learn to live | | | | out what is best for the individuals, |
| with each other 24/7. | | | | the relationship and the family as a |
| How many partners spend their whole life | | | | whole. |
| at work, rarely seeing their children | | | | Catch this common marriage problem |
| and having little time for their spouse? | | | | before it develops into something more |
| Their partners so often feel neglected, | | | | serious don't loose your family over |
| crave adult company, and as time goes | | | | something you probably will learn to |
| on, the neglected partner's cries go on | | | | regret, save your marriage before it's |
| ignored the relationship begins to | | | | too late. |