| It is so easy to work your life away, forget about your | | | | partner's cries go on ignored the relationship begins to |
| family, your partner and your relationship. People putting | | | | wither and fade and the couple tend to grow apart. |
| work before family is such a common marriage | | | | When children are involved it is even more difficult with |
| problem that seems to pop up time and time again. | | | | just one partner having to make sure they are around. |
| It's ok for a while, your partner will understand that you | | | | That they are the ones there in the mornings and |
| need to put some time and effort into your career | | | | there in the evenings and that they alone have to |
| especially if it generates a good income but as time | | | | revolve their whole lives around children and school. |
| goes on and the 'W' word pops up again and again, | | | | Again this pressure on one partner is all too common, |
| even if your partner enjoys the benefits of your | | | | a marriage problem that seems to be ignored by |
| efforts, all patience fades and the realisation sets in | | | | spouses who tend to avoid their responsibilities under |
| that work is more important!! | | | | the misguided understanding that their partners can |
| I used to know a couple who spent most of their life | | | | and are happy to cope. |
| apart. He worked nights and she worked days. She | | | | Those early years, when your children are growing up |
| enjoyed spending the money that night shifts | | | | are very special and are years that can never be |
| generated, loved new clothes, new cars and all the little | | | | recaptured. They aren't years that should just pass |
| luxuries a comfortable life style brings but hated her | | | | you by at your desk under the false impression that |
| partner being tired when he was at home. They were | | | | next time your child wants you it will be different, you |
| between a rock and a hard place with him knowing | | | | just need to clear this project and then the next and |
| that if he gave up nights bang went the luxuries and | | | | then the next..... It's never any different. |
| more than likely bye bye wife but if he carried on | | | | Children struggle with the concept of work being more |
| working nights and striving for promotion he was dead | | | | important than them and what is going on in their lives. |
| in the water anyway. What a choice. Needless to say | | | | They are too young to understand the concept that |
| they never reached a compromise, she wasn't willing | | | | their parent is just short sighted, perhaps confused as |
| to wait for the promotion and a return to day shifts, so | | | | to what should take priority in their lives. Money doesn't |
| they are no longer married. | | | | mean much to a child. |
| Working excessively long hours, travelling a lot and | | | | When work takes over your life, no matter what you |
| constantly leading separate lives is bound to put a | | | | best intentions are, if your vision isn't understand and |
| strain on your relationship and it has proven to be a | | | | accepted by your family and they aren't 100% behind |
| real relationship killer, a common marriage problem that | | | | you all of the way they will learn to resent the time |
| is prolific in the 'career' society. Just look at the number | | | | you spend at your desk rather than with them. They |
| people that are addicted to long unsociable working | | | | will feel abandoned, unwanted and unloved. |
| hours and then see how many of them are still | | | | If you want to revolve your life around a work driven |
| married. | | | | environment you must make sure that that your |
| I've only ever met a handful of couples who are truly | | | | partner has the same all consuming driving ambition. If |
| comfortable with, at best, a weekend relationship and | | | | either one in a relationship feels that work has taken |
| these are couples that have learned and are happy to | | | | over the family life it is time to sit down and discuss |
| live independent lives. The problem in their relationships | | | | what is important in to you both. Consider the issues, |
| will come when the long hours and travelling comes to | | | | understand the feelings on both sides, think about the |
| an end and they have to learn to live with each other | | | | children and work out what is best for the individuals, |
| 24/7. | | | | the relationship and the family as a whole. |
| How many partners spend their whole life at work, | | | | Catch this common marriage problem before it |
| rarely seeing their children and having little time for their | | | | develops into something more serious don't loose your |
| spouse? Their partners so often feel neglected, crave | | | | family over something you probably will learn to regret, |
| adult company, and as time goes on, the neglected | | | | save your marriage before it's too late. |