| It is so easy to work your life away, forget | | | | grow apart. |
| about your family, your partner and your | | | | |
| relationship. People putting work before | | | | When children are involved it is even more |
| family is such a common marriage problem that | | | | difficult with just one partner having to |
| seems to pop up time and time again. | | | | make sure they are around. That they are the |
| | | | ones there in the mornings and there in the |
| It's ok for a while, your partner will | | | | evenings and that they alone have to revolve |
| understand that you need to put some time and | | | | their whole lives around children and school. |
| effort into your career especially if it | | | | Again this pressure on one partner is all too |
| generates a good income but as time goes on | | | | common, a marriage problem that seems to be |
| and the 'W' word pops up again and again, | | | | ignored by spouses who tend to avoid their |
| even if your partner enjoys the benefits of | | | | responsibilities under the misguided |
| your efforts, all patience fades and the | | | | understanding that their partners can and are |
| realisation sets in that work is more | | | | happy to cope. |
| important!! | | | | |
| | | | Those early years, when your children are |
| I used to know a couple who spent most of | | | | growing up are very special and are years |
| their life apart. He worked nights and she | | | | that can never be recaptured. They aren't |
| worked days. She enjoyed spending the money | | | | years that should just pass you by at your |
| that night shifts generated, loved new | | | | desk under the false impression that next |
| clothes, new cars and all the little luxuries | | | | time your child wants you it will be |
| a comfortable life style brings but hated her | | | | different, you just need to clear this |
| partner being tired when he was at home. They | | | | project and then the next and then the |
| were between a rock and a hard place with him | | | | next..... It's never any different. |
| knowing that if he gave up nights bang went | | | | |
| the luxuries and more than likely bye bye | | | | Children struggle with the concept of work |
| wife but if he carried on working nights and | | | | being more important than them and what is |
| striving for promotion he was dead in the | | | | going on in their lives. They are too young |
| water anyway. What a choice. Needless to say | | | | to understand the concept that their parent |
| they never reached a compromise, she wasn't | | | | is just short sighted, perhaps confused as to |
| willing to wait for the promotion and a | | | | what should take priority in their lives. |
| return to day shifts, so they are no longer | | | | Money doesn't mean much to a child. |
| married. | | | | |
| | | | When work takes over your life, no matter |
| Working excessively long hours, travelling a | | | | what you best intentions are, if your vision |
| lot and constantly leading separate lives is | | | | isn't understand and accepted by your family |
| bound to put a strain on your relationship | | | | and they aren't 100% behind you all of the |
| and it has proven to be a real relationship | | | | way they will learn to resent the time you |
| killer, a common marriage problem that is | | | | spend at your desk rather than with them. |
| prolific in the 'career' society. Just look | | | | They will feel abandoned, unwanted and |
| at the number people that are addicted to | | | | unloved. |
| long unsociable working hours and then see | | | | |
| how many of them are still married. | | | | If you want to revolve your life around a |
| | | | work driven environment you must make sure |
| I've only ever met a handful of couples who | | | | that that your partner has the same all |
| are truly comfortable with, at best, a | | | | consuming driving ambition. If either one in |
| weekend relationship and these are couples | | | | a relationship feels that work has taken over |
| that have learned and are happy to live | | | | the family life it is time to sit down and |
| independent lives. The problem in their | | | | discuss what is important in to you both. |
| relationships will come when the long hours | | | | Consider the issues, understand the feelings |
| and travelling comes to an end and they have | | | | on both sides, think about the children and |
| to learn to live with each other 24/7. | | | | work out what is best for the individuals, |
| | | | the relationship and the family as a whole. |
| How many partners spend their whole life at | | | | |
| work, rarely seeing their children and having | | | | Catch this common marriage problem before it |
| little time for their spouse? Their partners | | | | develops into something more serious don't |
| so often feel neglected, crave adult company, | | | | loose your family over something you probably |
| and as time goes on, the neglected partner's | | | | will learn to regret, save your marriage |
| cries go on ignored the relationship begins | | | | before it's too late. |
| to wither and fade and the couple tend to | | | | |